Her Secret Desires

 

 

 

 

 

 

“The Secret of Dating a Girl in 5 Minutes!”

Get the Girl of Your Dream

 

You will find life a lot easier if you take time to study the art of asking a girl out. That does not mean trying out all the suggestions you get from friends and colleagues, who will be only too happy to share their ideas. Every female is different, and you need to take the time to get to know her personality as well as her likes and dislikes, before you progress to asking her out. It will take time to get to know her, especially if she is reserved, or a very private person. This EBook will provide you with practicaladvice on how you can get to know her and convinceher to go out with you.

This is not a quick-fix solution. You will need to be prepared toput in the time and effort if you want to succeed. This is a step- by-step process, which will help you to understand how the female mind works and allow you to communicate with your prospective date successfully. Your approach has to be adaptable depending on the girl’s personality. If she is outgoing and approachable, you can just go ahead and ask her out. However, if she is shy and reserved, you will need to be more thoughtful about your approach, or you may frighten her off completely. This eBook will introduce you to the secrets that will help you to improve your chances of success when you ask for a date.

 Changes in behavior and society have made it much easier for individuals to strike up relationships. It is not unusual these days for a relationship to start within a matter of hours or days from the first meeting. However, in some cases it may take a lot more communication and persuasion to get the girl to accept a date as an opportunity for getting to know each other better.

Chapter01

“Different Types of Girls”

 In this chapter I will tell you about the types of girls that you are likely to meet. I will also tell you how you should go about getting to know them better.

Synopsis

v Girls Who Have a Calm Nature

v Girls Who Are Bold

v Girls Who Are Flirty

v Girls Who Are Less Attractive

v Girls Who Are Boring

 

I will tell you how to recognize the different categories of girls, so you can choose one that is compatible with you and your environment, behaviour and habits.

Girls Who Have a Calm Nature

 If you are looking for a long-term or possibly a life-time partner to settledown with, you should look for this type of girl.

She will have a serious out-look and approach to life and have little interest in things frivolous. She is a ‘one-man woman’ and will expect the man to wear the trousers in a relationship.   She is likely to be compliant and willing to please. However, she does have standards and habits that are set in stone and will be almost impossible to change. She will judge you by her standards and expect you to have similar expectations and goals in life.

 

Girls Who Are Bold

 These girls appear to be and are very different from calm girls. However, they have an underlying seriousness when it comes to a love relationship, and they will expect commitment from you.

These girls enjoy flirting. They prefer it when they are the centre of your attention. They are very outgoing and fun to be with, but you need to be aware of their invisible boundaries. They will cut you off very quickly if you overstep the mark. Remaining faithful is an essential in a relationship with these girls. They may appear possessive as they can display a need to hang out with you all the time.

Girls Who Are Flirty

 You may often come across girls who are flirty,but very shallow.They often jump from one relationship to another, or have several ongoingat the same time. You should never expect more than a short but often exhilarating fling with these girls.

They are usually very attractive and belief it’s their right to be admired and pampered by boys. They are often referred to a ‘man’s woman’ becausethey may not connect with other females easily. They may always expect you to pay on a date, and you will need to shower them with gifts.

They are usually accused of only being interested in what they can get out of any relationship, so you can expect to be replacedonce the first initial excitement of the relationship calms down. They detest boredom and normality.

 Girls Who Are Less Attractive

 These girls may not have the looks, but they do have a warm and very supportive nature. They can very easily become your life-long best friend, rather than a date.

They believe that they have nothing to offer in the attraction's stakes and can become very wary with boys, who are attracted to them. They mistrust the intention of boys that offer flowery compliments and make romanticgestures.

They have a mind of their own and expect boys to be more attracted to their mind, than their looks. They put friendship much higher up in the relationship stakes than love. You mayneed to do the same and forget about romantic gestures and dates.

Girls Who Are Boring
 

Coming into contactwith girls who are boring is not uncommon. That usually means that you have no shared interests, on which to build a relationship.

During your initial contact, the girl may seem fun and outgoing. However, once you’ve covered all the get to know you bits. You will likely run out of things to talk about. As you have no shared interests or hobbies the relationship will quickly stall. It may be betternot to start a relationship in the first place.

Chapter02

“Planning to Ask a Girl Out?”

 There are several things you need to plan when you are goingto ask a girl out. This chapterwill guide you through the planning.

Synopsis

v Reason for Failure

v Plan to do Something Exciting

v Plan the Logistics of Your Date in Advance

v Take it as Read, That YouHave to do the Asking

v Choosing the RightMoment

v Knowing When the Time is Right to ask Her Out.

You are likely to come across some tough situations throughout your life-time. However, perhaps one of the toughest will be getting it right, when you ask a girl out on a date. You are hoping she will say yes straight away. However, you may not always be that lucky and she may say no, or make excuses as to why she cannot go out with you.

Here are some tips on how you can get the girl to say yes to your request for a date.

Reason for Failure

 If you are a stranger to the girl, you are asking out, the chances are she is more likely to say no. You could be ‘Jack the Ripper’ for all she knows. Her response will likely be an act of self- preservation that has little to do with you. She will be applying what she has been taught since early childhood ‘not to talk, or go with strangers’

You should not allow a rejection to dent your self-confidence. You need to take things slowly and spend some time as acquaintances, getting to know each other. Once she gets to know and starts to feel comfortable with you, she is much more likely to say yes.

 

Plan to Do SomethingExciting

 Choose something fun activities you can do with a group of friends. That gives you the opportunity to invite the girl to join your group as a friend.You then have a non-threatening opportunity to relax and interact so you can get to know each other better.

If you succeed in getting the girl to hang out with you and some friends, you will find it much easier to ask her on a date. She is more likely to say yes, because she has seen that you can be a fun guy.

Be spontaneous, and don’t be afraid to show you have a caring side. Show her you are intelligent and can talk about topics other than what’s going on at school or at home. Talk about subjectsor hobbies that really interestyou, and take time to find out what she likes and dislikes. It is all about natural and free flowing communication and getting to know about eachother.

 

Plan the Logistics of Your Date in Advance

 Plan ahead and know what you intend to do on the date. Then when you ask her if she is free that evening, you can tell her what you have planned and ask if that is OK with her. If she has alreadysaid she is free that night, she is unlikelyto say no. If she sees you are willing to compromise about what you want to do duringthe date, it will help to win you brownie points.

However, if after saying she is free, she then starts to make excuses why she cannot go on the date with you. You should accept it as a good sign; she is not attracted to you.

Alternatively, if she says, she already has plans for the evening you want to take her out; you can try some charm and gentle persuasion. If she knows you are a fun person to be with, and she is attracted to you, you may get her to change her plans. Or you canask her what night would be OK with her.

 

You Have to Do the “Asking”

Don’t labour under the misapprehension that a girl will ask you out on a date. Contrary to a popular belief, there are only a very small number of girls who will ask you out. If you don’t want to miss out, then be prepared to be the one that asks for a date.

 

Choosing the RightMoment

 Making sure you choose the right moment to ask a girl on a date is important. If you rush in and ask her before she has had the chance to get to know you, she will say no. It may take several meetings as friends before you find the right moment. You need to be patient, use your instincts and learn to read the signs she is giving you, and you should know instinctively when she is ready to progress to dating.

Knowing the Right Time to Ask Her Out

 There are several signs that may indicate that the girl is ready to go out on a date with you. In addition to the way she looks at you and her body language, you may notice a more intimate tone in her conversation with you.

She will show an interest in you, even when you talk about something boring or are saying very little. You need to rely on your instinct and natural ability to know when the time is right to ask her for a date.

Chapter03

“Ideas for Being Romantic”

 

If you want to ask a girl out on a date, you should approach her with some style and romance. The advice in this chapter will help you to bring out the romantic side of your personality.

Synopsis

 vDon’t be Afraid to Show your Feminine Side or Caring Nature

v Believe in Yourself

v Sit Down and Makea List

v Make the FirstMove

v Communications

v Be There for Herwhen She Needs You

v Make Sure She Notices You

 Having a girl as a friend is one thing; it is the moving on to a romantic relationship that can be the difficult part. Making a smooth transition will be easy if you approach it in the right way.   What you say, and the way you behave, when you ask a girl out, can be the key to yoursuccess or your failure.

Don’t be Afraid to Show your Feminine Side or Caring Nature

 

If you are really interested in a girl, you need to let her know. That often means toning down your ‘macho’ attitudeand behavior and letting her see you have a softer and more caring nature.   If you come across as having too much testosterone, you risk frightening or turning the girl off, and she will make excuses not to go out with you.

Many of the male populations are reluctant to admit that they have a feminine side, especially in front of other males. However, the best way to get the girl to go out on a date is to show her you do have a sensitive and caring nature. If you dothis, and she continues to turn you down, then you shouldforget her and find another girl to ask out.

 Believe in Yourself

You may not be the most attractive male on the planet, but you may not be the ugliest. You need to be strong in the belief that you do have something to offer a girl. However, you do need to find the right balance betweenbeing self-confident or being over-bearing, if you want to be successful in attracting the girl.

If like most males startingout on the dating game, you thinkyou don’t have a romanticbone in your body, you may be surprised. Following a few simple steps can introduce you to your romantic side.

Sit Down and Make a List

If you are not good at remembering things, you can write them down in a list. Girls are well impressed if you remember their birthday, or special occasions such as anniversaries, withouthaving to be reminded.   The minimum you should do is send her a card, but you will gain a lot more brownie points if you send flowers, chocolates or take her out for a nice meal to celebrate.

You can also use your list to make a note of her likes and dislikes such as does she have a favourite perfume, what is her favourite colour and so on?   It will save you a whole lot of grief if you choose somethingshe really likes as a gift for those specialoccasions.

 Make the First Move

 Knowing when your relationship with a girl is ready to move on to the next stage can be tricky.   As many girls will be reluctant to take the initiative, it is up to you to make the first move. If you over-step the mark, by being too passionate too quickly, you can destroy the relationship. You need to start off by saying goodbye with a wave or a casual kiss on the cheek.   You can hold hands while walking, or while sitting in the cinema. The more you get to know her the easier you willfind it is to read the signs. She will let you know when she is ready to progress the relationship.